Remembering the Wisdom of the Body

As part of promoting a tele-training that I am co-leading with Marlena Field, founder of Body-Centered Coaching. I wrote a blogpost for Marlena’s website, and I am sharing it here as well as I’m sure it’s food for thought and reflection for all ……

…. Since I first took Marlena’s tele-trainings years ago, and more recently her legacy program to become a Certified Body-Centered Coach, I have become increasingly grateful that I can coach my clients in this way.  It is heartwarming to witness the response from my clients on the impact body-centered coaching has for them.

My aha today is that coaching clients to access the wisdom in their bodies is inherently wise in itself!  When you think about it, why would we ever coach without including the body? Or as I like to say: the rest of the body (because the head is part of the body too).

Oh yes – our brains are wonderful sources of information.  But they are only one part of the wonder that is us.  Some suggest that we have several brains – our heart and our gut, in addition to our head, have knowledge for us.   However, the body centered coaching approach tells us that we also have valuable information in our muscles, our organs, our fibers –  in all of our being.   When we coach clients to solve their issues by accessing their wisdom wherever it is in their body, they experience new insights, relief, wonder, new possibilities, freedom, joy.

I recently coached a client who was struggling with which direction to take his career.  He was in the fortunate position of having several options at the same time and for each there were attractive pros and a few cons.   He was drawn by the ‘pros’ of them all and didn’t know which to pursue or which to let go of.
This client was in the midst of an MBA program, so my assumption and experience of him was that he lives primarily in his head, and wondered how he would respond to body-centered coaching.  But I realized I couldn’t help him in the traditional decision-making way of just examining pros and cons.

So with his permission to experiment, we visited each of those possibilities to see what information his whole body had for him (not necessarily to make a decision at this point).  During the coaching I thought the responses he articulated were somewhat head-based, and was concerned that he wasn’t getting it!  But when the coaching was over, he exclaimed:  “Wow! That was really insightful!  I now know which options are not right for me at all! Thank you!”

Yes, it is good to always remember that there is wisdom in body centered coaching, wherever it resides, and however it is expressed.

Thoughts on Mother’s Day

When I was a teenager, anxious for my life to evolve faster than it appeared to be doing, my Mother’s response to my angst always was: ‘your time will come dear”.  Though annoying and frustrating at the time for me, her refrain proved true and wise.
Today my life is full and rewarding, and I am truly grateful for it.
The road ahead sometimes holds a vision of the destination, sometimes a mystery. But it is always there to explore, to follow, to divert from, to use as a guide, to plot our progress, to meet others, to find our way.
My mother’s wisdom was about faith in oneself, an optimistic belief in what the world has to offer us, and about appreciation … and patience.
On this Mother’s Day I remember my mom with love and gratitude, and realize how her view of life is a part of who I am and how I live my life.
On this Mother’s Day, what are you noticing or remembering or being grateful for from your mother, that is part of who you are and how you live your life?

Listening to My Heart

It’s a long time since I’ve written on my blog.  Not sure I can explain why I haven’t, nor why I am finally doing so today, but hope you’re glad I’m back.  It’s something about listening to the wisdom in my own heart.  Funny how the ‘teacher’ teaches what she has to learn.

What I do know is that I have my own process…. And that if I allow things to evolve, they will.  Forcing never works.  So the past number of months have been about ‘just being’, and enjoying life, while my subconscious works away in the realm of deeper knowledge and awareness than is on the surface.

I know that it is time again to step out into the world in this way.  Time to participate, not just read, listen and watch.  How I know that is by how moved I am, as are all of you I’m sure, by the horrors in Haiti.  My heart is deeply touched by the devastation that is almost impossible to comprehend, the widespread suffering, the generosity of those who contribute financially because we can and so far it’s all we feel we can do — and more so by those who go to help because they have the skills, the resources, the compassion to serve in this long hour of need – whether they are medical personnel, soldiers, journalists, family members, friends or strangers.

I also think about what lies ahead – for the saved and the saviours – all of whom are no doubt traumatized in ways yet to be revealed.  And yet I know the human spirit is tremendously resilient and resourceful and believe that, out of the horror, has come humanity; out of the devastation, a future will emerge; kindness and compassion along with concrete assistance, will alleviate the pain and suffering.

What does your heart know?  Are you listening?